Choose Love

We often associate Love with how we are feeling. When we’re feeling happy, excited, romantic or loved, it’s easy to tell someone we love them, because our feelings are positive in that moment and everything feels right. But, what about when we’re sad, angry, disappointed, lonely, or feeling unloved? Love usually isn’t the first word that comes to our mind in those moments. Why is that?

Does it mean that we don’t really love someone when we don’t feel love in those moments?

No, not at all.

We don’t feel love in those moments, because that is when it’s truly revealed to us that love is not a feeling at all.

Love is a choice.

“According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:”

Ephesians 1:4

Probably the biggest mistake people make in their relationships with others, and I don’t just mean our spouse, is setting an unattainable standard for what love should feel like.

I’ve been guilty of this myself, and what I’ve experienced is a lot of disappointment and heartache.

Does that mean love won’t make us feel happy? Nope. True love brings more than just happiness. It brings joy, peace, confidence, security, honor, trust and loyalty. True love never fades nor can it ever be taken away.

“For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, not powers, not things present, not thing to come, Not height, nor depth, not any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Roman 8:38-39

True love is what we choose to show someone – what we choose to give someone – regardless of how we are feeling.

Today. Tomorrow. Always. Choose love.